Friendships, Seasons and Discernment.

I let go of a friend over a year ago. I knew the friendship had served it’s purpose and we both needed to move on. I knew early on that it was a seasonal friendship and so when it was time to move on, there was no fight or drama. It was an instant letting…

Of Unintentional Mentoring and Being an Unintentional Mentor.

If only your mentors knew you were using their life to chart a new course. If only they knew that you observe them keenly. If only they knew that something you cannot define or explain draws you to them. If only they knew you were studying them. If only they knew that they are life…

When I Eventually Meet Chimamanda…

When I eventually meet Chimamanda, some six questions I could ask: 1. Greatest defining moment of your life? 2. Do your friends chose you or do you chose them and if you do, what factors (apart from being a lover of books) do you consider before asking for their hand in friendship? 3. If feminism…

Choices.

I currently live in a regimented environment, and with environments of this nature comes rules and templates of ‘doing‘ and ‘being‘. There is an unvoiced and voiced modifying of behavior everyone in this environment has to undergo. Your behavior has to align to the code of conduct. I have broken the rules more times than…

For Those Who Monitor Other People’s Progress.

You monitor other people’s becoming but you never lend a hand. You are watching them transform and progress, but you never contribute to their journey. But the moment they tweet, write, sing, say something that you don’t agree with, you are quick to judge them and call them out. You retweet their blunders and host…

For Leaders…

To get the best out of your followers, allow them operate from their area of strength. As a leader, you should also nuture. Watch them, observe them. Each person has that trait that makes them stand out from others. Help them express it. At times you want to go all tough love and throw them into…