Dear Diary: Just in Case I Mess Up…

Just in case I mess up, this is the kind of reality check I would expect from my bestie. The attention you want is unavailable so you seek succor elsewhere. Elsewhere is toxic and you know it but you are needy. The need for attention twisted your sense of dignity so you put your birth…

Friendships, Seasons and Discernment.

I let go of a friend over a year ago. I knew the friendship had served it’s purpose and we both needed to move on. I knew early on that it was a seasonal friendship and so when it was time to move on, there was no fight or drama. It was an instant letting…

Of Unintentional Mentoring and Being an Unintentional Mentor.

If only your mentors knew you were using their life to chart a new course. If only they knew that you observe them keenly. If only they knew that something you cannot define or explain draws you to them. If only they knew you were studying them. If only they knew that they are life…

When I Eventually Meet Chimamanda…

When I eventually meet Chimamanda, some six questions I could ask: 1. Greatest defining moment of your life? 2. Do your friends chose you or do you chose them and if you do, what factors (apart from being a lover of books) do you consider before asking for their hand in friendship? 3. If feminism…

Choices.

I currently live in a regimented environment, and with environments of this nature comes rules and templates of ‘doing‘ and ‘being‘. There is an unvoiced and voiced modifying of behavior everyone in this environment has to undergo. Your behavior has to align to the code of conduct. I have broken the rules more times than…

Insecurities.

Do you know that a need to always appear strong and perfect especially to get others to think of you in a certain way is a kind of insecurity? Add it to your arsenal of life lessons.

Dear Diary: Being…

I am currently pruning my becoming list for the next 3 years with a major emphasis on the next 13 months of my life. I am adding on new things and letting go of  so many others. As I adult, I realize my wants have changed. I no longer  want what I was taught to…