As with most things in life, sex comes with expectations. You go into sex with an expectation of how it should be, how you should feel and all other stuff in between.
And then you get disappointed. The problem wasn’t sex, the problem was your expectations. Your expectations disappointed you. A lot of what people call sexual incompatibility is heightened expectations of sex that wasn’t met.
A wiser, older, matured, married woman once told me. When you eventually decide to have sex, go in with a blank mind. There is a name for that expression.
Go in with the mind set of I want to learn, I want to explore.
I have stumbled on sex in differing ways and usually they don’t appeal to me. I guess it is because of the way it is projected. I see sex as worship. There is something private and intimate about sex that makes it repulsive to watch when it is cheaply commonised and reduced to a 20 seconds flick used to drive traffic and increase ratings. I think sex deserves to be respected. It should be sacred and kept within the confines of marriage.
The practical reality of sex is not familiar to me. I am saving the honey for the moon and when I eventually do want to explore, I am going to attend a sex school. Sounds crazy but I am going to milk the experience dry and wring it for what its worth.
Those graphic representations of sex we see in the media are rarely true.Premarital sex is made to look cool and hip and trendy. If you are wise and very observant you will realize that that is just an advertising strategy, a media stunt. The media trades in perception and rarely, very rarely does perception co-incide with reality absolutely.
Sex is overrated before marriage and quite underrated in marriage.
One day, I will share a story of how sex outside of marriage is overhyped.
Someone remind me to share that story…